MEET SKYLAR
Hi, I'm Skylar Anderson.
If you're here, chances are you're looking for answers, support, or simply someone who understands the challenges your child may be facing. As a parent, it can be heartbreaking to watch your child struggle with confidence, behavior, emotions, friendships, school, or everyday life—and not know where to turn for help.
I understand that feeling.
As a Registered Behavior Technician (RBT), WISDOM Coach®, children's author, and future Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA), I have dedicated my career to helping children discover their strengths, build confidence, and develop the skills they need to thrive.
Over the years, I have worked with children from many different backgrounds, including children in foster care, children with autism and ADHD, children facing behavioral challenges, and children who simply need extra support navigating life's ups and downs. Through those experiences, I have learned one important truth: every child is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to helping them succeed.
My goal is never to "fix" a child. Children are not broken.
Instead, I focus on helping children better understand themselves, build confidence in their abilities, manage big emotions, develop healthy coping skills, and learn how to overcome challenges in positive ways. Whether a child struggles with self-esteem, frustration, anxiety, negative self-talk, social skills, or emotional regulation, I provide encouragement, guidance, and practical tools they can use both now and throughout their lives.
Many parents ask what a children's coach actually does.
Think of me as a supportive mentor who walks alongside your child, helping them discover their strengths, build resilience, develop a positive mindset, and gain confidence in who they are. Coaching provides a safe and encouraging space where children can learn, grow, and practice the skills that help them succeed at home, in school, and in their relationships.
I believe every child has incredible potential. Sometimes they simply need someone who believes in them, helps them recognize their own strengths, and gives them the tools to reach them.
If your child is struggling—or if you simply want to help them build confidence, resilience, and a stronger foundation for the future—I would be honored to support your family on that journey.
Because every child deserves to feel confident, capable, valued, and understood.
Our Mission
To provide compassionate, effective coaching that empowers children to overcome challenges, build confidence, and achieve emotional well-being. We support all children on their journey to self-discovery, offering life coaching that fosters resilience, self-worth, and a deeper understanding of who they are and what they can become.
Our Approach
My approach focuses on empowering children through stories, projects, activities, and problem-solving scenarios. I am the owner of Enchanting Hearts, LLC, and I have a passion for working with autistic children, those with behavioral challenges, and children with developmental and learning disabilities. With over seven years of experience as a Registered Behavior Technician and now a Certified WISDOM Coach®, I base my programs on the "Adventures in Wisdom™" framework. My diverse experiences have provided me with a deep understanding and connection to children, and I am committed to supporting them in all aspects of their lives.
The Quiet Clues We Miss: When a Child’s Behavior Is Really a Cry for Help
As parents, grandparents, foster parents, and caregivers, we spend so much time trying to correct behaviors that we sometimes miss the message hidden behind them.
A child who suddenly becomes angry, withdrawn, disrespectful, anxious, clingy, or defiant is often trying to communicate something they don't have the words to explain.
What if the behavior isn't the problem?
What if the behavior is the clue?
The story of Lily
Eight-year-old Lily had always been a happy child. She loved drawing pictures, telling stories, and spending time with her family.
Then things began to change.
She started arguing over little things. Homework became a battle. She cried over problems that seemed insignificant. Her teacher reported that she was distracted and no longer participating in class.
Everyone had an opinion.
"She's being dramatic."
"She's just seeking attention."
"She needs more discipline."
But no one asked Lily what was really happening.
As the weeks passed, her behavior worsened. Her parents tried consequences, rewards, lectures, and stricter rules. Nothing seemed to help.
One afternoon, while talking with a child life coach, Lily quietly admitted something she had been carrying alone.
She was terrified.
A close friend had moved away. She felt lonely at school. She was struggling to make new friends and worried constantly that nobody liked her. Every day she walked into school feeling anxious and afraid.
The anger wasn't the problem.
The tears weren't the problem.
The attitude wasn't the problem.
They were symptoms of a hurting heart.
Once Lily had a safe place to talk, learn coping skills, build confidence, and understand her feelings, everything began to change. Not overnight—but little by little.
She started smiling again.
She felt heard.
She felt understood.
Most importantly, she felt capable of handling her challenges.
Children Speak Through Behavior
Children rarely walk up to an adult and say:
"I'm struggling with anxiety."
"I'm feeling rejected."
"I'm overwhelmed."
"My self-esteem is falling apart."
Instead, they communicate through behavior.
A child may:
- Become angry over small things.
- Refuse to go to school.
- Withdraw from family activities.
- Stop talking about their day.
- Have frequent meltdowns.
- Become unusually clingy.
- Struggle with sleep.
- Lose interest in things they once enjoyed.
- Suddenly become defiant.
When we focus only on correcting behavior, we risk missing the deeper issue.
Why Child Life Coaching Matters
Child life coaching helps children identify, understand, and express their emotions in healthy ways.
Rather than focusing solely on consequences and correction, coaching focuses on connection.
Children learn:
✅ Confidence-building skills
✅ Healthy communication
✅ Emotional awareness
✅ Problem-solving strategies
✅ Positive self-talk
✅ Resilience during difficult situations
A child who feels understood is often much more willing to cooperate, grow, and succeed.
Looking Beyond the Behavior
The next time a child is struggling, try asking:
- What might this behavior be telling me?
- What happened before this started?
- Is my child feeling safe emotionally?
- Could they be carrying worries they don't know how to express?
- Have I created enough opportunities for open conversations?
Sometimes the greatest breakthrough comes not from changing a child's behavior, but from understanding the pain, fear, confusion, or frustration behind it.
Every Child Deserves to Be Heard
At Enchanting Hearts LLC, we believe every behavior tells a story.
Behind every meltdown, every tear, every angry outburst, and every moment of withdrawal is a child who wants to be understood.
When we slow down and listen to the quiet clues, we can help children build confidence, overcome challenges, and discover the strength that has been inside them all along.
Because sometimes the child who appears to be acting out is actually reaching out.
And that child may simply need someone willing to listen.
Bullying: The Trauma That Often Happens in Plain Sight
Bullying can leave deep emotional scars that follow a child long after the teasing, exclusion, or harassment stops. Unlike a single argument or disagreement, bullying is repeated and intentional, often making a child feel powerless, isolated, and ashamed. Many children who are bullied begin to believe the hurtful messages they hear about themselves. Over time, this can lead to anxiety, depression, withdrawal from friends and activities, declining school performance, and in some cases even thoughts of self-harm. What makes bullying particularly damaging is that it often happens in environments where children are supposed to feel safe—schools, playgrounds, sports teams, and even online communities.
Helping a child who is being bullied starts with listening without judgment and taking their experience seriously. Children need to know they are believed and supported. Encourage them to talk about what is happening and reassure them that the bullying is not their fault. Parents and caregivers can help by documenting incidents, communicating with teachers or school administrators, and working with the school to create a safety plan. It is also important to help the child rebuild confidence by strengthening friendships, encouraging activities where they feel successful, and teaching them safe ways to respond or seek help when bullying occurs. Above all, a child who is being bullied needs consistent reminders that they are valued, supported, and never alone in facing the problem.
CRITICISM AND CHILD STRESS
When Criticism Changes a Child’s Brain: Understanding the Hyperactive Stress Response
There are children who live in homes where yelling is rare…but criticism is constant.
Not always screaming.
Not always abuse in the way people imagine it.
Sometimes it sounds like:
- “Why can’t you ever listen?”
- “You’re too sensitive.”
- “What is wrong with you?”
- “Stop crying.”
- “You always mess things up.”
- “You should know better.”
And while adults may see those words as “discipline,” a child’s nervous system often experiences something very different.
Modern neuroendocrine research is showing us something important:
Children exposed to frequent, ongoing criticism can develop a hyperactive HPA axis—the body’s central stress response system.
That means their brain and body begin preparing for danger…even when danger is no longer present.
Please read the rest of this in my blog section....
“Every child has incredible potential. Sometimes they just need someone who believes in them long enough to help them believe in themselves.”
